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"Consider how the lilies grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these." Luke 12:27 (NIV)

Monday, April 5, 2010

Mawwiage #2: 14 Years

Last week while saying goodbye to the 3 year old's kindy room leader, she mentioned that she was off work for 5 weeks and getting married in two weeks. I mentioned in passing that I too, was married in April 14 years ago and would be celebrating an anniversary this week. Miss S expressed her surprise and said 14 years is a long time and asked how we managed it. I replied with my most sagacious demeanour, "One day at a time."

Well after many "one days at a time", today we celebrate 14 years of married life together. It's probably not a huge deal deal for those who have stayed together for 30, 40, 50 even 60 years. In Hollywood years, however, it's probably the equivalent of 40 years. While it sounds like a cliche, the reality is that time has flown by very quickly, especially the last eight years with both of us groping in the dark, trying to raise children. Some of it is rather a blur... more for him than for me... Sleep deprivation doesn't seem to kill my memory cells the way it decimates his.
After 14 years, I can in all honesty say that I love being married and the truth is, all the credit goes to the husband for being incredibly supportive of all that I am and everything that I do. Believe me when I say I am not the easiest person to live with. Furthermore, we are best friends and we can talk about anything and everything... except, of course, I revert to stereotype and do most of the talking.
The thing I respect most about him is that he is not quick to judge others. Because he likes to chew things over carefully and doesn't feel the need to jump to conclusions, I have come to appreciate his insights about many things over the years.
I'm not saying that we have the perfect marriage -- pfftt... how can we, being extremely imperfect creatures. But we are, mostly, a good team, complementing one another -- giving one another much needed balance and perspective.


  1. Congratulations on your anniversary! We are 14 years in December. Time really does fly, doesn't it! I hope you've had a truly special day.

  2. That's sweet :) I'm not married myself, but I think being best friends with your husband/wife is very important!


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