A Window into Life in the Suburbs

"Consider how the lilies grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these." Luke 12:27 (NIV)

Wednesday, March 30, 2011


You can learn a lot about your kids just from watching them play.

We're at the pool (I'm poolside really but the girls are in it) and I've got my nose stuck between the pages of P.D. James' Talking About Detective Fiction, chuckling to myself. Interrupting my reverie is the 4 year old, who has stumbled out of the water sobbing incoherently that some a certain dastardly sister of hers had done something to her.
So I reach for the towel and she recoils instantly.
"I don't want to stop swimming yet..." She declares through tears and runs back toward the shallow end of the pool.
Ah... I see... She doesn't really want me to do anything. It's an appeal... to "a higher authority" but mostly she just wants... sympathy.

They're playing a shoestring version of "Here Comes the Bride". Very shoestring. It revolves around Nana's lacey, crochet thingamygig and a flannel blanket for the dollies.
Yeah, it's dress-up with music. But only one of them has pretend clothes on. The other one is dressing her up.

Kids are creative... duh... who doesn't know that. Innumerable books have been written on the subject. But sometimes creativity is the means and not the end.

We're scootering up the "hill". For a child under the age of 5, a suburban "hill" is almost like a mountain. Older sister whizzes all the way up.
But the 4 year old, with her smaller frame, is struggling to keep up. She's annoyed that older sister has not shown her proper consideration to wait for her. What she doesn't know is that we've been waiting for big sister to scooter without bribery and extortion for over 2 years.

Cajoling her... making threats about selling the scooter all that time... and in the end, she had to own it. Timing, dealing with the stuff between the ears had to be hers to do.
4 year old almost always wants to do whatever her big sister does.
But big sister needs the self-confidence to get on with the job.

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